Positive nurses or positive people in general don’t have a magical power that others don’t possess. Positivity and achievement isn’t an elusive concept that only the ‘special’ amongst us can ever hope to achieve. Every single one of us can develop that positive attitude needed for success. Check out these ten things that positive nurses don’t do:
1. They don’t create problems in their own minds
Have you ever stopped to think how many problems wouldn’t exist if we didn’t invent them? How many times have you sent a text or made a call, not got a response and your first thought is that something is wrong or something has happened? Positive people know that quickly drawing a conclusion is usually a bad idea. What we think, we become, and when we constantly create problems in our minds we become that problem.
2. They don’t act aimlessly
Working toward meaningful life goals is one of the most important strategies happy people utilise. Health care workers in general have values that they care about and outcomes that they know are worth working for and that’s what drives most of us. As Einstein said “Strive not to be a success but rather to be of value…”
3. They don’t hold on to resentment
Learn from the past and move on with what you have learned from the incidents. Holding onto resentment only causes pain in life over and over again, so let go of it!
4. They don’t forget the little things
Research suggests that the character of gratitude correlates with life satisfaction. Positive nurses, and positive people in general express gratitude for every blessing, no matter how big or small. Gratitude to others is a great way to make yourself express gratitude to yourself for what you really have. No matter how small your achievement, gratitude increases self-worth and self-esteem and helps dissolve those negative emotions.
5. They don’t fear failure
Failure is hard to deal with but is a natural and all too common fact of life. Positive nurses see failure as just a part of the journey. They take full responsibility for how things are and learn from what went wrong. No matter how many times they fall, they pick themselves up after something doesn’t work and they start again.
“I’ve missed more than 900 shots, lost more than 300 games, been entrusted by my team to take the winning shot and failed at it 26 times. I’ve failed over and over again and that’s why I have succeeded…” Michael Jordan
6. They don’t expect others to make change
Positive nurses don’t rely on others to effect change. They don’t wait for their neighbour or manager or work colleague to make the change, for if you do you will end up waiting forever. They act on what they believe, they take the baton and they lead, no matter how small the change as long as you act you have made a difference, you have separated yourself from others.
7. They don’t give up
Success is made up of many tiny steps and small achievements. Positive nurses know that they have to persevere; they know they have to keep going. They don’t let inspiration, and productivity die. They don’t always know where ‘keeping going’ will take them but they know if they give up, if they quit, the journey is over!
8. They don’t wait for that perfect moment
There’s no such thing as the perfect time or the perfect opportunity. Positive nurses view life as being a series of moments and that you take the moments that you are given and you do your best to make those moments count. Anne Frank once said “How beautiful is it, that nobody need wait a single moment before starting to improve the world…”
9. They don’t forget the importance of support
They don’t believe they can do it on their own. They value social and professional support and surround themselves with those that can give them that support. They don’t forsake their families and friends and understand the value of true friendship and support.
10. They don’t stop dreaming
Dreams and thoughts are powerful things and if you let them, they develop a life of their own. As children we believed that anything was possible and we could be anything we wanted to be. So dream, keep dreaming and don’t worry if those dreams seem idealised or if they are criticised by others. Don’t worry if you don’t have a plan yet to make your dreams come true, after all, Martin Luther King didn’t stand up and tell people he had a plan, he said, “I have a dream!”